December 2011
46 posts
Submission: Point Foundation Scholarships: for... →
theselfmademen:
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Partying on New Year's Eve?
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Considering safe sex as a trans individual...
I work full time as a sexual health educator, and I frequently feel some hypocrisy in what I teach as I don’t remember the last time I had safe sex. It’s not that I don’t worry about my health and safety or my partner’s health and safety, it’s just that the safe sex options out there are limiting for my sexual behavior and sometime deny my gender identity.
When it...
Day Twenty Three: What stereotypes are put on...
There are loads of them – almost none of them good. Trans people are freaks, mentally ill, or are turned into some sexual and erotic fantasy. Trans people don’t have family or friends to support them, and inevitably end up lonely and/or homeless. Trans people will never be the gender they say they are. All trans people physically transition, and in fact, you aren’t trans unless you do. Trans...
Day Twenty Two: Do you feel being trans holds you...
No way. Not in any way, shape, or form. Potential employers honestly don’t know what to do with my matter-of-fact way of being out most of the time. Either they jump on board with me, and become an advocate themselves, or they give me free rein to be myself. I don’t give them any other choices haha
I’m going into social services, so the field innately is rather liberal and open-minded. So my...
Day Twenty One: Your views on the cis-gendered...
*cisgender — I hate adding an -ed ending on -gender words. No one should be saying transgendered. It implies there’s a past tense in being trans, which is not the case. Likewise, there’s no past tense in being cisgender. No one says femaled or maled. Many people, even within the trans community use the word transgendered, so I’m sure people have different views but...
Day Twenty: Do you want to be a parent? Why or why...
This is a great question.
I go back and forth with it every day practically. I think I’d be a stellar dad. But I also need to accomplish some things for myself before I have a family. I firmly believe that selflessness is essentially to being a good parent, and until I’ve completed some personal goals, I don’t think I could do that. If/when I’m a father, it’s going to be my full...
30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself →
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Day Nineteen: If you’re religious, how do your...
I’m atheist, so fortunately, my religion is accepting of people of all walks of life J
My family, however, is Roman Catholic. This caused a little bit of a problem initially, but eventually they came around. I’ve been fortunate to have no had many bibles thrown at me haha Honestly, religion is just a topic for debate in my family, with my parents defending Catholicism and me and my siblings...
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Day Eighteen: How do you feel about the trans laws...
I live in New York State, and unfortunately, the trans laws could be better. Unfortunately, here, unless you’re employed by the state you don’t have protection under anti-discrimination laws. In other words, you can get fired for being trans unless you for NYS. Which unfortunately, has happened to me.
I used to work at McDonald’s, but once my gender identity surfaced during college, I came...
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Day Seventeen: What's your binding choice and why?
Well, I’m post-op… so… this isn’t terribly applicable. But when I was binding, I swore by the Extreme Chest Concealer FTM Chest Binder by Underworks, it’s a chest only compression with a relaxed mid-section. They’re pricey, but completely worth it. Here’s the link, if anyone is interested.
http://ftm.underworks.com/
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Day Sixteen: What's your rock anthem and why?
I wish I had a more exciting response for this one but honestly, I can’t pick one song. I’m better off going with genre’s haha
I listen to such a wide variety of music, pretty much anything can turn into a rock anthem for me. But one genre that really sticks out to me is ska. Whenever I’m in a blah mood, or not sure what to listen to, or want to rock out, or want to...
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Day Fifteen: How have you embraced your trans...
I’ve embraced my trans identity in probably every way imaginable. I educate my family, friends, co-workers, classmates, acquaintances, even complete strangers. (Which may or may not be safe, that’s a whole other issue though.) I’m out in every venue in my life, even though I could easily go stealth. I’ve fully embraced the fact that I will never be a cisgender man. It took me a while to be...
How to Explain Gay Rights to an Idiot →
Someone should forward this to all the Republican presidential candidates.
CALLING ALL TRANS* INDIVIDUALS IN NEW YORK!
I started a running list of resources for transmen a while back. The list includes therapists, endocrinologists/other doctors willing to do hormones, and FtM surgeons. It has been coming in handy for folks looking to physically transition. Unfortunately, it’s a relatively short list…
If you have a therapist, endo/hormone doctor, or surgeon in New York State that you like or would...
fuck yeah sex education: SEX POSITIVE, BODY... →
cuntflavor:
The both are linked.
It’s hard to have amazing sex (from my experience, at least) if you don’t love your body! Various forms of the human body coming together (with one other or multiples, or by yourself!) is a beautiful thing and should be valued at all times. It should also be…
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Day Fourteen: What are some of your passing tips...
(I’m 5 days behind… be ready Tumblr, I’m catching up)
Firstly, I hate the term “passing.” It implies that I’m pretending to be someone I’m not. I’m male. If people don’t perceive me to be, that’s their being naive, ignorant, or disrespectful — not my shortcomings as a man. I prefer the term ‘gender attribution’....
Santorum: Gay Couples 'Destabilize the Family," No... →
fuckyeahsexeducation:
liberal-antics:
“It [presumably gay families] does in fact affect society, it affects children, it affects families, it affects educational systems, it affects people’s freedom of religion, it changes the entire value structure of our country, it undermines family, it undermines faith. You know what? We respect the ability of people to live their lives the way they want...
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Day Thirteen: Bathrooms
Bathrooms, bathrooms, bathrooms. I could talk about them for hours but I’ll keep this short and brief.
Bathrooms suck. Especially if you haven’t medically transitioned. Anxiety goes through the roof, and inevitably every guy that walks in I immediately think “do they know who I am? are they going to hurt me for who I am?” Maybe it’s just my paranoia, but I...
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Day Twelve: What are you doing to stay healthy for...
I believe that a sound body leads to a sound mind, and a sound mind leads to a sound body. So I make a very strong effort to include physical activity in my schedule on a daily basis, in whatever capacity possible. I also seek therapy whenever my mind gets too cluttered or occupied to the point where I’m not healthy anymore. No reason to ashamed of that, that’s what that profession...
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Day Eleven: How do you manage dysphoria?
Fortunately, at the moment, my dysphoria is pretty minimal. Most of my dysphoria happens in bathrooms, particularly when there are other guys there — and when it does come, it’s pretty bad. But thankfully it’s not that often.
Prior to testosterone, my dysphoria was pretty bad. I’d have about one in three days where I didn’t want to get out of bed because I...
GOP Candidates sign pledge to investigate LGBT... →
This terrifies me. I’m moving to Sweden if any of these lunatics get any more political control… ever. In fact, they should be stripped of their political status right now for advocating the loss of some American’s right to freedom of speech.
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Day Ten: What are some of your fears in regards to...
My only fears in regards to being trans are getting harassed or assaulted. I used to have dreams of people breaking into my apartment at undergrad, trying to kill me.
Discrimination, like not getting a job or not getting an apartment or whatever, sure it sucks, but at least you’re physically okay and alive. My biggest fear is being assaulted or murdered because of who I am. Especially...
Tips for Single Women, 1938. →
Oh how the times have changed…. or have they?
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Day Nine: What is something positive about being...
1- You get to appreciate the little things in life more so than cisgender folk. (E.g., the gender marker on your license is the best thing in the world, assuming its been changed) Who would’ve thought a gender marker could make someone’s day?
2- You have the opportunity to be the man you want to be. You are literally a self made man. You aren’t born into your manhood (however...
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Day Eight: How do you deal with being read...
I’m embarrassed to say this, but at the beginning I just let it happen. I’d internalize the rage, disappointment, and feelings of inadequacy. I felt like because I hadn’t started hormones, I didn’t have the right to be upset outwardly to someone who used the wrong pronouns. I’d just say “It’s okay, I understand. It’s hard for some people”....
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Day Seven: Who do you look up to
I look up to my grandpa the most.
I never really considered any of the men in my life to be a great male role model for me. Maybe some other people would think so, but I certainly don’t. All of the men I’m around on a regular basis are incomplete in some way. Most of my male friends remind me of the guys on Jersey Shore to some capacity, and I find those men to be...
They Said WHAT??
morethanfaqs:
Michele Bachmann tells high school students gays do have the right to get married: gays are free to marry straights.
Newt Gingrich: Poor children have “no habits of working and nobody around them who works.” So, it’s poor people’s fault they are poor. If they got a job and showed their kids how to work, there would be no poor people.
Gotta love these crazy people, eh?
Movember was a flop.
I tried growing a mustache during November. The only person who could see it was Bethanie… in the right light. I would’ve taken a picture, but again, only Beth could see it under certain circumstances.
Maybe 2012 Movember will be more successful? I’ll be 2.5 years on T by then, so I’d hope so.
Speaking of, tomorrow is 6 months post op. And the 23rd will be 1.5 years on...
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Day Six: Who was the first person you told about...
Depends on how you define it. The first person I talked to about how I was feeling, without having a word for it yet, was my friend Audrie. I remember hanging out in her dorm room one day during college and trying to explain to her that I know I’m attracted to women, I want to be with women, but I don’t feel gay, or that I’m supposed to be in a same-sex relationship. Not from...